Show: http://polyweekly.com/archives/402
MP3: http://media.libsyn.com/media/polyweekly/PW162.7_4_08.mp3


To those of you coming from having listened to the podcast: Yes, they're public. My only requirements for linking / discussing them is that I like to have a link to that discussion or page, and appreciate reading your comments if you have any (the more specific the better).


( My comments & manual links )

Yay: both my [dates? boys? I dunno what to call 'em yet] like each other. And pizza was good. And mrow.
Boo: rain at meet time tomorrow.
Yay: aliothsan agreed to take over organizating
Boo: I have to get up <s>too fucking early</s> early for CBEST testing tomorrow morning (edit: evidently it's 830 not 630.)
Yay: CBEST = job
Boo: ... hopefully. I think. and going to probably be boring and stuff
Yay: another possible part time job soon doing sorting for google
Complicated: all the other stuff

I think that's an overall yay.

Last night wasn't as bad as I was anticipating, probably 'cause I was exhausted. Tonight should be okay I think but am not going to enjoy having to get up so early. Me go sleep now. Goodnight world.

I made this video for polyweekly: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8T1CAYj57U

It shows various ASL signs for "polyamory" and related words.

cunningminx was rather flattering about it ^^ in the last podcast of PW (#102), and also addresses a question I raised about 'network' vs 'family' paradigms of poly, with requests for comment from the audience.

Right now, the podcast is up, but the post about it isn't and the post is here. She may be posting my YT vid as a separate vidcast (which I am totally OK with of course - with the caveat that people should check back to YouTube to see if some actual deaf poly people respond to my video with better / local signs, since I'm not a native signer).

( Text of my question re paradigms )

(Triggered by having listened to the podcast about it from polyweekly [which I get via iTunes]. I recommend it btw; the few episodes I have heard so far are entertaining and intelligent, and the vocal intonations are very soothing / curl-up-able. Sorta like Ira Glass. *laugh*)

Is there anything taught beyond the basics? If so, what?

"Basics" to me (apart from just general sexuality) means:
* breath exercise
* PC muscle
* eyegaze holding
* up-spine-down-front cycle, & figure-8 or large-circle w/ partner
* breath-sharing (cyclical or parallel)
* mutual lotus position
* general acceptance of ebb-and-flow, enjoying things along the way / non-goal-orientation, having fun just giving or just receiving, general body-responsiveness tuning

Certainly all that is wonderful stuff and there is plenty of depth to get in each... but is it just that?

Granted, this is also moreorless the full scope of my knowledge. Hence why I call it 'basic'; I don't think that much if any of what I've taught myself over the years or picked up along the way is all that esoteric or 'advanced', i.e. requiring mastery of the basics before it can be done successfully. Moreso with tantra, since I've not had nearly as much practice at it as I'd like, so don't think of myself as even particularly self-trained (and I have never had any outside training). Most of what I know is really just a natural extension of my private practice; I would expect that I am therefore missing some major partner-dependent elements and don't know what they are.

It makes me somewhat disappointed to be told I'm going to be taught something, and have it just be the same old bits that seem ... obvious. Always good to be reminded of course, and helpful to set up situations that encourage focusing on it...

'course, the reminder makes me feel even more pouncy than I have already been lately...